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I used to be a Christian, but am not anymore. Most of the people that I know are Christians. Suddenly most of my close friends are grilling me over my salvation. Nothing I say changes anything or even brings the argument to a close. How can I have a conversation with people who (truly care about me, but) continue to remind me how "dangerous the path I am taking is" and how "afraid they are for me?"

It's just highly uncomfortable and I want to be able to have a good time with them with out them being constantly worried over my salvation.

I'm sure many of you have had similar issues. What did your experience teach you?


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I have had good results with saying something like, "That's my secret." Then changing the subject, tone-deaf to further comments by them but with good humor.

Sometimes covering your ears and singing offkey, "La la la la la la laaaaaa..." works.

There are many ways to change the flow of the conversation with good vibes.

The worst thing you can do with someone who wants to save you is try to justify or explain yourself. You can only truly explain anything to a person interested in the answer, not to a person seeking an edge to convert you. So remember that your Christian friends doing their missionary thing are not really interested in what you think in terms of philosophy and never will be so long as they are bent on saving you.

Then it is easier to tune out that part of their discourse and keep the good vibes for the rest.

That is... if they allow it. Some people get really pissed when their attempts at soul-saving fail. Unfortunately with those folks you have to move on. They won't change you and you won't change them. All you will do is irritate each other.

This hurts at times but there is nothing you can do about it. Each person's head is his own property. Even when a person doesn't respect that with you, you should with that person (that is, if you want a world around you without control-freaks in it). This attitude will lead you naturally to move away from toxic people.

The good news is that not everyone is like that. Be totally honest with yourself when judging people and you will be all right.


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I've always found that a firm statement that you've already heard the arguments, made a thorough investigation of the topic, and come to what you think is the correct decision,and that you appreciate their concern for you, but any further discussion of the topic will annoy you, with the result that you will be even less likely to convert, to work with people that actually care about what you think. For the rest, a frozen smile while saying something snarky will end the discussion. But that's useful only with people whose opinion of you does not matter.

Being Jewish, I have the further indignity of being told what the Jewish Scriptures "mean", which tends to spark a round of KYHOMBYSG*, inevitably capped by my announcement that actually the Hebrew text of whatever passage they want to distort for my benefit says something quite different

*Keep your hands off my Bible, you stupid goy!

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I would have them look at this website and then you guys can get together and discuss the ideas in it over whatever stimulants of choice. I am always looking to recruit.

I always explain quickly, for example, to a person who sees my copy of Atlas in my arm or asks me what the book is about, since I may be underlining something while on the train, that it is one of the great books of all time, and even though she is a self proclaimed atheist, it is important to read because.........and then I will adapt the persuasion to the audience.

It pulls that fang and opens the person's inquisitiveness to read the book.

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Being Jewish, I have the further indignity of being told what the Jewish Scriptures "mean", which tends to spark a round of KYHOMBYSG*, inevitably capped by my announcement that actually the Hebrew text of whatever passage they want to distort for my benefit says something quite different

*Keep your hands off my Bible, you stupid goy!

Hee! Hee! Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

Ba'al Chatzaf

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