Hi folks:) I'm generous because I have additional time, money, or skills available to me that I don't immediately use. Given that abundance, I need an appreciative audience, someone like me (or so I fantasize) to whom I can give this overflow who apparently needs it at that time. At the time I give of myself, I may not be aware of the need for appreciation. I may seem to be giving in order to strictly help an individual. However, if I take a moment then and ask myself, "Mike, how do you feel about about me this moment?," what comes out is a variant of "I really love you this moment, Mike." Sometimes that appreciative audience is me, appreciating my acceptance of a common bond of humanity. From this perspective, talking about it, as Kelley does, in terms of an investment in society or some type of indirect social exchange is wildly beside the point. best wishes, MikeJoyous