Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 July 28 – Self-Esteem Every DayOur life is about self-expression, not self-justification. If your goal is to prove you are “enough,” the battle is already lost: it was lost on the day you conceded the issue was debatable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 July 29 – Self-Esteem Every DayA life without a purpose is like a boat without a rudder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 July 30 – Self-Esteem Every DayOne of the most important teachings you can offer a child is the joy of earning a living by doing work one loves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 July 31 – Self-Esteem Every DayLife is goal-directed. This is the basic fact of biology. But one of the great rewards of being human, in contrast to lower animals, is how many goals we are free to choose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 August 1 – Self-Esteem Every DayIntegrity is congruence between what you know, what you profess, and what you do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 August 2 – Self-Esteem Every DayIntegrity is a key pillar of self-esteem. It is a guardian of mental health. It is the mind being true to itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 August 3 – Self-Esteem Every DayWhen we act in ways that conflict with our judgment of what is appropriate, we lose face in our own eyes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 August 4 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf you do not make any promises and do not profess any principles, you may be accused of other things but not of hypocrisy. To be a hypocrite, you must have something to betray. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted August 5, 2006 Share Posted August 5, 2006 August 5 – Self-Esteem Every DayWhen a breach of integrity wounds self-esteem, only an act of integrity can heal it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 7, 2006 Author Share Posted August 7, 2006 August 6 – Self-Esteem Every DayAt the simplest level integrity entails some basic questions: Are you honest, reliable and trustworthy? Do you keep your promises? Do you honor your commitments? Do you do the things you say you admire and avoid the things you say you deplore? Are you fair and just in your dealings with others? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 8, 2006 Author Share Posted August 8, 2006 August 7 – Self-Esteem Every DayIntegrity means congruity. Words and behavior match. There are people you know whom you trust and others you don't. If you ask yourself the reason, you will find that congruence is basic. You trust congruity and are suspicious of incongruity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 9, 2006 Author Share Posted August 9, 2006 August 8 – Self-Esteem Every DayDo you want people to trust you and perceive you as a person of integrity? There is no mystery about how to achieve this. Be true to your word. Keep your commitments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 11, 2006 Author Share Posted August 11, 2006 August 9 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf you act against what you yourself believe is right, if your actions clash with your professed values, then you are acting against your own judgment—you are betraying your own mind. How can self-esteem not be affected by this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 11, 2006 Author Share Posted August 11, 2006 August 10 – Self-Esteem Every DayOne of the great self-deceptions—and one of the great foolishnesses—is to tell yourself, "Only I will know." Only you will know that you are a liar; only you will know you deal unethically with people who trust you; only you will know that you have no intention of honoring your promise. Whose knowledge or judgment do you imagine is more important? It is precisely your own ego from which there is no escape. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 August 11 – Self-Esteem Every DayMost people do not erode their self-esteem over big issues, but over small ones, little acts of betrayal and hypocrisy forgotten (repressed) very quickly. But the computer in your subconscoious mind forgets nothing. It records your spiritual profit and loss. The balance sheet reflects your present level of self-esteem—and sends you the information via your emotions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 August 12 – Self-Esteem Every DayThe desire for self-esteem without integrity is like the desire for wealth without effort—a longing for the unearned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 August 13 – Self-Esteem Every DayWhat is guilt? It is moral self-reproach—I did wrong when it was possible to have done otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 August 14 – Self-Esteem Every DayRationally, there cannot be guilt where there is neither choice nor responsibility. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 17, 2006 Author Share Posted August 17, 2006 August 15 – Self-Esteem Every DayThe idea of original sin—of guilt with no possibility of innocence, no freedom of choice, no alternatives—inherently militates against self-esteem. The very notion of guilt without volition or responsibility is an assault on reason as well as on morality. Sin is not original, it is originated—like virtue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 17, 2006 Author Share Posted August 17, 2006 August 16 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf you have done something you know to be wrong, if you feel guilty about it and wish to correct it, there are usually five steps you should take: 1 - Acknowledge the fact that it is you that have taken the particular action. Face and accept the full reality of what you have done without denial or disavowel. Acknowledge, accept and take responsibility. Do not say it really wasn't me.2 - Seek to understand why you did what you did. Understand where you were coming from.3 - If others are involved, as they often are, acknowledge explicitly to the relevant persons the harm you have done. Convey your understanding of the consequences of your behavior. Convey your understanding of how they have been affected. 4 - Take any and all actions that might make amends for or minimize the harm you have done.5 - Firmly commit yourself to acting differently in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 17, 2006 Author Share Posted August 17, 2006 August 17 – Self-Esteem Every DaySome people would rather suffer the guilt than take the actions necessary to eliminate the guilt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 August 18 – Self-Esteem Every DayThere is no virtue in guilt. The question is: What are you going to do about it? If you avoid that question, not only is guilt not a virtue, it is a cop-out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 August 19 – Self-Esteem Every DayIt is easy enough to say, Be true to your values. But what if your values are irrational? Or what if the virtues to which you have committed yourself are so imimical to human nature that they cannot be practiced consistently? Be careful of what you accept as your code of morality. Think carefully about whether its tenets serve your life and well-being. Exercise critical judgment. Realize how much is at stake—your life, your happiness, your self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 August 20 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf we see that our values are leading us towards destruction, clearly it is time to question our values. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 August 21 – Self-Esteem Every DayWithout self-responsibility we cannot practice integrity—we will not choose our moral code mindfully. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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