Kat Posted June 15, 2006 Author Share Posted June 15, 2006 June 12 – Self-Esteem Every Day The opposite of self-assertiveness is self-abnegation—abandoning or submerging your personal values, judgment, and interests. Some people tell themselves this is a virtue. It is a "virtue" that corrodes self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 15, 2006 Author Share Posted June 15, 2006 June 13 – Self-Esteem Every Day Out of fear, out of the desire for approval, out of misguided notions of duty, people surrender themselves—their convictions and their aspirations—every day. There is nothing noble about it. It takes far more courage to fight for your values than to relinquish them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 15, 2006 Author Share Posted June 15, 2006 June 14 – Self-Esteem Every Day Chances are, when you were young, you were told, in effect, "Listen kid, here's the news: life is not about you. Life is not about what you want. What you want is not important. Life is about doing what other people expect of you." If you accepted this idea, later on you wondered what happened to your fire. Where had your enthusiasm for living gone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 16, 2006 Author Share Posted June 16, 2006 June 15 – Self-Esteem Every Day It is naive to think that self-assertiveness is easy. To live self-assertively—which means to live authentically—is an act of high courage. That is why so many people spend the better parts of their lives in hiding—from others and also from themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 18, 2006 Author Share Posted June 18, 2006 June 16 – Self-Esteem Every Day It is painful to face the self we know we have never had the integrity to honor and assert. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 18, 2006 Author Share Posted June 18, 2006 June 17 – Self-Esteem Every Day It is humiliating to realize that when you drive yourself underground, when you fake who you are, often you do so for people you do not even like or respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 19, 2006 Author Share Posted June 19, 2006 June 18 – Self-Esteem Every Day What is the specter that makes self-assertiveness feel so terrifying? The image of someone frowning in disagreement or disapproval. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 June 19 – Self-Esteem Every Day No one fears death as much as the person who knows he has never lived. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 21, 2006 Author Share Posted June 21, 2006 June 20 – Self-Esteem Every Day In a dictatorship people often feel compelled to hide their thoughts and feelings for fear of being arrested or killed. Such fear can be rational. but what does it do for your self-esteem if you live that way in a free country? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 21, 2006 Author Share Posted June 21, 2006 June 21 – Self-Esteem Every Day If you overcome your fear to ask someone for a date, a raise, or help with a project, that is an act of self-assertiveness. You are moving out into life instead of contracting and withdrawing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 24, 2006 Author Share Posted June 24, 2006 June 22 – Self-Esteem Every Day To accept the challenge of acquiring a new skill such as mastering the computer or learning to ski or play chess, especially when the prospect of doing so scares you, is an act of self-assertiveness. You are pushing your boundaries, defying your comfort zone, expanding your territory. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 24, 2006 Author Share Posted June 24, 2006 June 23 – Self-Esteem Every Day A bully hides his fear with false bravado. That is the opposite of self-assertiveness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 In the present context, I can only say:Dayaamm!Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gary williams Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 A bully hides his fear with false bravado.That is a universal truth.gw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C. Jordan Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 Nathaniel Branden wrote: What is the specter that makes self-assertiveness feel so terrifying? The image of someone frowning in disagreement or disapproval. That describes my mother, and my first school teachers.*************Nathaniel Branden wrote: A bully hides his fear with false bravado. That is the opposite of self-assertiveness. That describes the other kids in school, though it is only lately that I can see it that way. I assume they got to be that way because they were raised much the way I was. Certainly they had the same teachers.The other kids must have learnt their lesson (watch my face, class, seek my approval, fear my frown) sooner than I did; because they rarely got beaten as often as I.(Since I brought the subject up, let me illustrate by singing our class version of Battle Hymn of the Republic. We sang the chorus thus:"Glory, glory hallelujah! Teacher hit me with a ruler!I met her in the attic with a German automatic,And she ain't my teacher no more."We all sang it that way, and somehow the teacher never noticed.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 24, 2006 Author Share Posted June 24, 2006 I love those golden oldies! Brings back memories. Here's the version we used to sing..."Glory, glory hallelujah! Teacher hit me with a ruler! Met her at the door with a number 44 and she don't teach no more." or how 'bout this golden oldie..."Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream.Throw your teachers overboard and listen to them scream!"Kat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 25, 2006 Author Share Posted June 25, 2006 June 23 – Self-Esteem Every Day One of the hardest things about self-assertiveness is challenging your limiting beliefs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 27, 2006 Author Share Posted June 27, 2006 June 25 – Self-Esteem Every Day Sometimes when a man wants to cry, he gets angry; when a woman wants to get angry, she cries: two forms of non-self-assertiveness disguised as emotional expressiveness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 27, 2006 Author Share Posted June 27, 2006 June 26 – Self-Esteem Every Day "Passive-aggressive" is the name psychologists give to people who develop ingenious ways to torture those around them without ever being self-assertive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 June 27 – Self-Esteem Every Day In an organization self-assertiveness is required not merely to have a good idea but to develop it, fight for it, work to win supporters for it, and do everything in your power to assure its realization. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 29, 2006 Author Share Posted June 29, 2006 June 28 – Self-Esteem Every Day Some people stand and move as if they have no right to the space they occupy. They wonder why others often fail to treat them with respect—not realizing that they have signaled others that it is not necessary to treat them with respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 30, 2006 Author Share Posted June 30, 2006 June 29 – Self-Esteem Every Day Persons with good self-esteem tend to be self-assertive. Persons who are self-assertive thereby strengthen their self-esteem. The causality flows in both directions. The relationship is reciprocal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted June 30, 2006 Author Share Posted June 30, 2006 June 30 – Self-Esteem Every Day It is a mistake to look at someone self-assertive and say, "It is easy for her, she has good self-esteem." One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it is not easy to do. There are always times when self-assertiveness requires courage, no matter how high your self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 July 1 – Self-Esteem Every DaySelf-esteem entails feeling in control of your existence. This feeling requires that you operate purposefully, since it is only through your goals and purposes that you can have any control over your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 July 2 – Self-Esteem Every DayTo exist without purpose is to be at the mercy of the chance encounter, the chance invitation, the chance phone call, the chance event—always being controlled by forces external to oneself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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