Apparently I am not being clear enough. I have never said that this situation is occuring right now. What I have said said is that it is an issue I have been thinking about for a while, because it has happened in the past and it can happen in the future.
I get the same feeling. Particularly from the ambiguity he works in, does the friend have a “crush” (junior high) or is he “in love” (adult)? Both.
I know we’re supposed to assume good faith, but my gut’s saying that we’re being gamed.
But anyway, I have come to my conclusion now so I'm happy. I wrote my conclusion in my previous post above. So thanks for your help everybody.