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#1 Brant Gaede

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 01:11 AM

Ruth Brant Davis (Ruth Brant, Ruth Brant Gaede)

b. October 25, 1914

Ph.D. Eng. Lit., founder of Tucson Community School, daughter of Irving Brant and Hazeldean Brant, Mother of Joan Olson, Patricia Margrave, Brant Gaede, Marc Gaede

Happy birthday Mom!

Next: 95.

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#2 Michael Stuart Kelly

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 04:14 AM

Brant,

The way you wrote this looks like an obituary, but I cannot be 100% sure. Before I comment, I would like to check. Please clarify.

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#3 Brant Gaede

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 09:54 AM

Brant,

The way you wrote this looks like an obituary, but I cannot be 100% sure. Before I comment, I would like to check. Please clarify.

Michael

Certainly not! But I'll modify it. Thanks, Michael.

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Edited by Brant Gaede, 25 October 2008 - 09:58 AM.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 09:57 AM

Brant,

Good Lord! I didn't look at her date of birth very carefully.

Sorry.

A very special and happy birthday to your mother.

It's touching that you put it in the Romance section.

Michael

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#5 Brant Gaede

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 09:59 AM

Brant,

Good Lord! I didn't look at her date of birth very carefully.

Sorry.

A very special and happy birthday to your mother.

It's touching that you put it in the Romance section.

Michael

I couldn't find another section.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 10:06 AM

Brant; Congratulations and Best Wishes to your mother.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 03:54 PM

Brant, a happy birthday and good health to your mother!

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Posted 11 November 2009 - 01:55 PM

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Posted 21 September 2011 - 01:30 PM

My Mother died in hospice Sept. 6 at the age of 96.

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Posted 21 September 2011 - 01:34 PM

I share your sadness Brant.

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Posted 21 September 2011 - 01:55 PM

Brant,

My deepest condolences. Kat's too.

Going by what you wrote over time here on OL, you were a good son. I'm sure your presence made her final years far better than they otherwise would have been.

Michael & Kat

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Posted 21 September 2011 - 02:11 PM

Brant,
I'm so sorry for your loss.

J

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Posted 28 September 2011 - 07:51 PM

Brant,

Just saw this notice.

Deepest sympathy.

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#14 Brant Gaede

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Posted 28 September 2011 - 08:42 PM

Thanks everybody. I'm in the transition thing and have no idea where I'll be in six months. I'm afraid my short posts will be getting a little fewer and even shorter for a while.

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Posted 04 November 2011 - 03:13 PM

Brant, I just saw this sad news, belated sympathies. To lose such a mother must be hard to bear. But mothers, you know... they never really go far away.

Carol

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Posted 04 November 2011 - 11:19 PM

Brant, I just saw this sad news, belated sympathies. To lose such a mother must be hard to bear. But mothers, you know... they never really go far away.

Carol

Thanks. She would have been 97 on Oct 25 and could have made it, but not much longer.

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Posted 05 November 2011 - 02:07 PM

Brant, I do not want to intrude on your experience. But mayI ask, do you hear your mother's words or fee lhler presence?Since she diee it has happened to me, andI am very rational.

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Posted 05 November 2011 - 02:11 PM

Brant, I do not want to intrude on your experience. But mayI ask, do you hear your mother's words or fee lhler presence?Since she diee it has happened to me, andI am very rational.

No.

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Posted 05 November 2011 - 03:22 PM

You mom had a good run.

Very little more can be asked of mortals.
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#20 Brant Gaede

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Posted 05 November 2011 - 04:00 PM

You mom had a good run.

Very little more can be asked of mortals.

She was confused and so fell down and hit her head in an unexpected place, but she was fighting for her freedom against the confining guard rail that let me sleep at night. She won but the cost was too high. When she was more rational she accepted the rail for I told her without it I couldn't sleep. She understood that then but not at the end. It took me two months to understand all this properly. The arrangement worked for two years until it didn't work anymore. There was no rail on the end of the bed as you'll find on a hospital bed.That's how she got up. It went up in the first place after two trips to the hospital to make sure there were no broken bones on bleeding on the brain and to tie off or stop a small arterial bleeder in the forehead. I still have a lot of regret, but not guilt. It's kind of ironical that something else was to do her in than her dementia but it was the dementia that finally did it. A cold could have done the job for she had little strength in reserve.

In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck.

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