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Posted 06 January 2007 - 01:20 PM

January 1 – Self-Esteem Every Day

There are two questions that all human beings, with rare exceptions, ask themselves quite often. The rare exceptions are the persons who know the answer to the first of these questions, at least to a significant extent. But everyone asks the second, sometimes in wonder, sometimes in despair. These are the two questions: How am I to understand myself? How am I to understand other people? To both questions the principles of self-esteem provide an important key. If you know what a person ties his self-esteem to, you can understand a good deal about his motivation.



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Posted 06 January 2007 - 01:25 PM

January 2 – Self-Esteem Every Day

The "I," the ego, the deepest self, is the faculty of awareness, the ability to think. Across a lifetime, knowledge grows, convictions may change, emotions come and go; but that which knows, judges, and feels—that is the changeless constant within us.



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Posted 06 January 2007 - 01:27 PM

January 3 – Self-Esteem Every Day

The drama of our lives is the external reflection of our internal vision of ourselves—of our competence and worth.



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Posted 06 January 2007 - 01:29 PM

January 4 – Self-Esteem Every Day

None of us can be indifferent to our own self-evaluation—just as we cannot be indifferent to the face we see in the mirror.



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Posted 06 January 2007 - 01:30 PM

January 5 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Although most of us do not experience this directly, the "self" we are esteeming—or not esteeming—is our mind: our ability to think and to cope with the challenges of life.



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Posted 06 January 2007 - 01:31 PM

January 6 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Self-esteem is always a matter of degree. I have never known anyone who was entirely lacking in self-esteem, nor have I known anyone who was incapable of growing in self-esteem.



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Posted 07 January 2007 - 11:12 AM

January 7 – Self-Esteem Every Day

If self-esteem is not reality based, if it is not rooted in such virtues as rationality, self-responsibility, and integrity, it is not self-esteem.



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Posted 11 January 2007 - 02:03 PM

January 8 – Self-Esteem Every Day

It is foolish to equate any experience of "feeling good" with self-esteem. All sorts of things can make you "feel good"—for the moment.



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Posted 11 January 2007 - 02:07 PM

January 9 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Self-esteem is a particular way of experiencing the self. Its two components are self-efficacy and self-respect. Self-efficacy is the experience of competence in thinking, learning, making appropriate decisions and responding effectively to the challenges of life. Self-respect is the experience that success, achievement, love, joy, fulfillment—in a word, happiness—are natural and appropriate to us.



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Posted 11 January 2007 - 02:09 PM

January 10 – Self-Esteem Every Day

To provide a formal definition: Self-esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with the challenges of life and as worthy of happiness.



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Posted 11 January 2007 - 02:11 PM

January 11 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Self-esteem is an intimate experience. It resides in the core of your being. It is what you think and feel about yourself, not what someone else thinks and feels about you.



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Posted 14 January 2007 - 12:17 PM

January 12 – Self-Esteem Every Day

You can be loved by your family, you mate, our friends yet not love yourself. You can be admired by your associates yet regard yourself as worthless. You can project an image of assurance and poise that fools almost everyone yet secretly tremble with a sense of inadequacy. You can fulfill the expectations of others yet fail your own. You can win every honor yet feel that you have accomplished nothing. What shall it profit a person to gain the esteem of the whole world yet lose his or her own?



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Posted 14 January 2007 - 12:20 PM

January 13 – Self-Esteem Every Day

If self-esteem is the judgment that one is appropriate to life—if self-esteem is self-affirming consciousness, a mind that trusts itself—no one can generate this experience except oneself. Others can support one's self-esteem but they cannot create it.



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Posted 14 January 2007 - 12:21 PM

January 14 – Self-Esteem Every Day

A sure sign of of troubled self-esteem is the delusion that self-esteem can be acquired as a free gift from others.



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Posted 17 January 2007 - 09:00 PM

January 15 – Self-Esteem Every Day

When we appreciate the true nature of self-esteem, we see that it is not competitive or comparative. It is not about making myself higher by making you lower. It has nothing to do with you. It is joy in my own being.



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Posted 17 January 2007 - 09:02 PM

January 16 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Arrogance, boastfulness, and overestimation of our abilities reflects underdeveloped self-esteem rather than, as some people imagine, too much self-esteem.



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Posted 17 January 2007 - 09:03 PM

January 17 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Sometimes people ask, "Can a person have too much self-esteem?" Can a person have too much physical health? In both cases, the answer is no.



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Posted 20 January 2007 - 08:48 PM

January 18 – Self-Esteem Every Day

Self-esteem and grandiosity are not on a continuum; grandiosity is not "excessive self-esteem" but a compensatory defense mechanism for lack of self-esteem.



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Posted 20 January 2007 - 08:50 PM

January 19 – Self-Esteem Every Day

To say that self-esteem is a basic need is to say (1) that it makes an essential contribution to life; (2) that it is indispensable to normal and healthy development; and (3) tht is has survival value.



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Posted 20 January 2007 - 08:51 PM

January 20 – Self-Esteem Every Day

If you face life without confidence in your own powers, you succumb too easily to setbacks and adversity; you lack the will to persevere.






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