Kat Posted January 6, 2007 Share Posted January 6, 2007 January 1 – Self-Esteem Every DayThere are two questions that all human beings, with rare exceptions, ask themselves quite often. The rare exceptions are the persons who know the answer to the first of these questions, at least to a significant extent. But everyone asks the second, sometimes in wonder, sometimes in despair. These are the two questions: How am I to understand myself? How am I to understand other people? To both questions the principles of self-esteem provide an important key. If you know what a person ties his self-esteem to, you can understand a good deal about his motivation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 6, 2007 Author Share Posted January 6, 2007 January 2 – Self-Esteem Every DayThe "I," the ego, the deepest self, is the faculty of awareness, the ability to think. Across a lifetime, knowledge grows, convictions may change, emotions come and go; but that which knows, judges, and feels—that is the changeless constant within us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 6, 2007 Author Share Posted January 6, 2007 January 3 – Self-Esteem Every DayThe drama of our lives is the external reflection of our internal vision of ourselves—of our competence and worth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 6, 2007 Author Share Posted January 6, 2007 January 4 – Self-Esteem Every DayNone of us can be indifferent to our own self-evaluation—just as we cannot be indifferent to the face we see in the mirror. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 6, 2007 Author Share Posted January 6, 2007 January 5 – Self-Esteem Every DayAlthough most of us do not experience this directly, the "self" we are esteeming—or not esteeming—is our mind: our ability to think and to cope with the challenges of life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 6, 2007 Author Share Posted January 6, 2007 January 6 – Self-Esteem Every DaySelf-esteem is always a matter of degree. I have never known anyone who was entirely lacking in self-esteem, nor have I known anyone who was incapable of growing in self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 7, 2007 Author Share Posted January 7, 2007 January 7 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf self-esteem is not reality based, if it is not rooted in such virtues as rationality, self-responsibility, and integrity, it is not self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 January 8 – Self-Esteem Every DayIt is foolish to equate any experience of "feeling good" with self-esteem. All sorts of things can make you "feel good"—for the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 January 9 – Self-Esteem Every DaySelf-esteem is a particular way of experiencing the self. Its two components are self-efficacy and self-respect. Self-efficacy is the experience of competence in thinking, learning, making appropriate decisions and responding effectively to the challenges of life. Self-respect is the experience that success, achievement, love, joy, fulfillment—in a word, happiness—are natural and appropriate to us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 January 10 – Self-Esteem Every DayTo provide a formal definition: Self-esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with the challenges of life and as worthy of happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 January 11 – Self-Esteem Every DaySelf-esteem is an intimate experience. It resides in the core of your being. It is what you think and feel about yourself, not what someone else thinks and feels about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 January 12 – Self-Esteem Every DayYou can be loved by your family, you mate, our friends yet not love yourself. You can be admired by your associates yet regard yourself as worthless. You can project an image of assurance and poise that fools almost everyone yet secretly tremble with a sense of inadequacy. You can fulfill the expectations of others yet fail your own. You can win every honor yet feel that you have accomplished nothing. What shall it profit a person to gain the esteem of the whole world yet lose his or her own? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 January 13 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf self-esteem is the judgment that one is appropriate to life—if self-esteem is self-affirming consciousness, a mind that trusts itself—no one can generate this experience except oneself. Others can support one's self-esteem but they cannot create it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 January 14 – Self-Esteem Every DayA sure sign of of troubled self-esteem is the delusion that self-esteem can be acquired as a free gift from others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 18, 2007 Author Share Posted January 18, 2007 January 15 – Self-Esteem Every DayWhen we appreciate the true nature of self-esteem, we see that it is not competitive or comparative. It is not about making myself higher by making you lower. It has nothing to do with you. It is joy in my own being. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 18, 2007 Author Share Posted January 18, 2007 January 16 – Self-Esteem Every DayArrogance, boastfulness, and overestimation of our abilities reflects underdeveloped self-esteem rather than, as some people imagine, too much self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 18, 2007 Author Share Posted January 18, 2007 January 17 – Self-Esteem Every DaySometimes people ask, "Can a person have too much self-esteem?" Can a person have too much physical health? In both cases, the answer is no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 January 18 – Self-Esteem Every DaySelf-esteem and grandiosity are not on a continuum; grandiosity is not "excessive self-esteem" but a compensatory defense mechanism for lack of self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 January 19 – Self-Esteem Every DayTo say that self-esteem is a basic need is to say (1) that it makes an essential contribution to life; (2) that it is indispensable to normal and healthy development; and (3) tht is has survival value. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 January 20 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf you face life without confidence in your own powers, you succumb too easily to setbacks and adversity; you lack the will to persevere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 January 21 – Self-Esteem Every DayIf you face life without the conviction that you have a right to be happy, you will not fight for your happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 January 22 – Self-Esteem Every DayIn the nature of our existence, we must act to achieve values. And in order to act appropriately, we must value the beneficiary of our actions. In order to seek values, we must consider ourselves worthy of enjoying them. In order to fight for our happiness, we must consider ourselves worthy of happiness. Many people put up with a life of suffering because they feel they deserve no better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 January 23 – Self-Esteem Every DayThe greatest barrier to achievement and success is not lack of talent or ability but rather the feeling that achievement and success, above a certain level, are outside our self-concept—our image of who we are and what is appropriate to us. The greatest barrier to happiness is the wordless sense that happiness is not our proper destiny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 January 24 – Self-Esteem Every DayThe level of our self-esteem creates a set of implicit expectations about what is possible and appropriate to us. These expectations engender the actions that turn them into realities. And the realities then confirm and strengthen the original beliefs. Self-esteem—high or low—is a generator of self-fulfilling prophecies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 January 25 – Self-Esteem Every DaySome enthusiasts of self-esteem believe good self-esteem solves nearly all the important problems in life. This is untrue. Struggle is intrinsic to life. Sooner or later everyone experiences anxiety or pain—and while self-esteem can make one less susceptible, it cannot make one impervious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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