Brant Gaede Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 (edited) Ruth Brant Davis (Ruth Brant, Ruth Brant Gaede)b. October 25, 1914Ph.D. Eng. Lit., founder of Tucson Community School, daughter of Irving Brant and Hazeldean Brant, Mother of Joan Olson, Patricia Margrave, Brant Gaede, Marc GaedeHappy birthday Mom! Next: 95.--Brant Edited October 25, 2008 by Brant Gaede Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Brant,The way you wrote this looks like an obituary, but I cannot be 100% sure. Before I comment, I would like to check. Please clarify.Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted October 25, 2008 Author Share Posted October 25, 2008 (edited) Brant,The way you wrote this looks like an obituary, but I cannot be 100% sure. Before I comment, I would like to check. Please clarify.MichaelCertainly not! But I'll modify it. Thanks, Michael. --Brant Edited October 25, 2008 by Brant Gaede Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Brant,Good Lord! I didn't look at her date of birth very carefully.Sorry.A very special and happy birthday to your mother.It's touching that you put it in the Romance section.Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted October 25, 2008 Author Share Posted October 25, 2008 Brant,Good Lord! I didn't look at her date of birth very carefully.Sorry.A very special and happy birthday to your mother.It's touching that you put it in the Romance section.MichaelI couldn't find another section.--Brant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Grieb Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Brant; Congratulations and Best Wishes to your mother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbara Branden Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Brant, a happy birthday and good health to your mother!Barbara Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted November 11, 2009 Author Share Posted November 11, 2009 (edited) deleted Edited November 11, 2009 by Brant Gaede Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted September 21, 2011 Author Share Posted September 21, 2011 My Mother died in hospice Sept. 6 at the age of 96. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selene Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 I share your sadness Brant.Adam Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Brant,My deepest condolences. Kat's too.Going by what you wrote over time here on OL, you were a good son. I'm sure your presence made her final years far better than they otherwise would have been.Michael & Kat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonathan Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Brant,I'm so sorry for your loss.J Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guyau Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Brant,Just saw this notice.Deepest sympathy.--Stephen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted September 29, 2011 Author Share Posted September 29, 2011 Thanks everybody. I'm in the transition thing and have no idea where I'll be in six months. I'm afraid my short posts will be getting a little fewer and even shorter for a while.--Brant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caroljane Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 Brant, I just saw this sad news, belated sympathies. To lose such a mother must be hard to bear. But mothers, you know... they never really go far away.Carol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted November 5, 2011 Author Share Posted November 5, 2011 Brant, I just saw this sad news, belated sympathies. To lose such a mother must be hard to bear. But mothers, you know... they never really go far away.CarolThanks. She would have been 97 on Oct 25 and could have made it, but not much longer.--Brant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caroljane Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 Brant, I do not want to intrude on your experience. But mayI ask, do you hear your mother's words or fee lhler presence?Since she diee it has happened to me, andI am very rational. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted November 5, 2011 Author Share Posted November 5, 2011 Brant, I do not want to intrude on your experience. But mayI ask, do you hear your mother's words or fee lhler presence?Since she diee it has happened to me, andI am very rational.No.--Brant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BaalChatzaf Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 You mom had a good run. Very little more can be asked of mortals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brant Gaede Posted November 5, 2011 Author Share Posted November 5, 2011 You mom had a good run. Very little more can be asked of mortals.She was confused and so fell down and hit her head in an unexpected place, but she was fighting for her freedom against the confining guard rail that let me sleep at night. She won but the cost was too high. When she was more rational she accepted the rail for I told her without it I couldn't sleep. She understood that then but not at the end. It took me two months to understand all this properly. The arrangement worked for two years until it didn't work anymore. There was no rail on the end of the bed as you'll find on a hospital bed.That's how she got up. It went up in the first place after two trips to the hospital to make sure there were no broken bones on bleeding on the brain and to tie off or stop a small arterial bleeder in the forehead. I still have a lot of regret, but not guilt. It's kind of ironical that something else was to do her in than her dementia but it was the dementia that finally did it. A cold could have done the job for she had little strength in reserve.In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BaalChatzaf Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck.Indeed. I am a pater familia. No one between me and the Brink. I am next over the edge or my wife., So it goes. Since it is inevitable I don't worry about it.Ba'al Chatzaf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caroljane Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck.Indeed. I am a pater familia. No one between me and the Brink. I am next over the edge or my wife.,So it goes. Since it is inevitable I don't worry about it.Ba'al Chatzafit's interesting isn't it. I have a whackload of thriving aunts, but I cannot bear the thought of their dying, I would no longer be me in my proper place in the family/world. At my mother's funeral, my darling aunt Charlotte said to me, sobbing, ,"You poor child!"She remembered me being a child, and her brother and sister-in-law whom she had so loved. It was the only time I cried,myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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