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      Once again, the fine folks at IPB made a new upgrade and things might not be where you started to learn they were. However, this is one time where I think they actually improved things for navigation. There are only a few big buttons: When you click on one of those buttons, some other stuff opens up, depending on which button you click. (Later Note: These only appear when zoomed in or in the mode for smartphones/tablets.) I'm learning this as you are, so I suggest you do what I am doing: click on these big buttons, see what they open and fiddle with the software some. Ironically, you will find there is a lot that is intuitive. That's what I'm discovering. (Later note: I just discovered that I was viewing the site zoomed in too far to see the normal view. The menus are still there with the old buttons, but when I zoom in too much, they disappear and the new buttons appear. I believe this zoomed in way is what the site looks like on mobile devices. I'm going to mess with it some more, then maybe make some explanations.) Sorry for the inconvenience. Still, over time, I hope you end up liking these changes. Michael
Brant Gaede

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Ruth Brant Davis (Ruth Brant, Ruth Brant Gaede)

b. October 25, 1914

Ph.D. Eng. Lit., founder of Tucson Community School, daughter of Irving Brant and Hazeldean Brant, Mother of Joan Olson, Patricia Margrave, Brant Gaede, Marc Gaede

Happy birthday Mom!

Next: 95.

--Brant

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Brant,

The way you wrote this looks like an obituary, but I cannot be 100% sure. Before I comment, I would like to check. Please clarify.

Michael

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Brant,

The way you wrote this looks like an obituary, but I cannot be 100% sure. Before I comment, I would like to check. Please clarify.

Michael

Certainly not! But I'll modify it. Thanks, Michael.

--Brant

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Brant,

Good Lord! I didn't look at her date of birth very carefully.

Sorry.

A very special and happy birthday to your mother.

It's touching that you put it in the Romance section.

Michael

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Brant,

Good Lord! I didn't look at her date of birth very carefully.

Sorry.

A very special and happy birthday to your mother.

It's touching that you put it in the Romance section.

Michael

I couldn't find another section.

--Brant

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Brant; Congratulations and Best Wishes to your mother.

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I share your sadness Brant.

Adam

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Brant,

My deepest condolences. Kat's too.

Going by what you wrote over time here on OL, you were a good son. I'm sure your presence made her final years far better than they otherwise would have been.

Michael & Kat

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Brant,

Just saw this notice.

Deepest sympathy.

--Stephen

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Thanks everybody. I'm in the transition thing and have no idea where I'll be in six months. I'm afraid my short posts will be getting a little fewer and even shorter for a while.

--Brant

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Brant, I just saw this sad news, belated sympathies. To lose such a mother must be hard to bear. But mothers, you know... they never really go far away.

Carol

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Brant, I just saw this sad news, belated sympathies. To lose such a mother must be hard to bear. But mothers, you know... they never really go far away.

Carol

Thanks. She would have been 97 on Oct 25 and could have made it, but not much longer.

--Brant

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Brant, I do not want to intrude on your experience. But mayI ask, do you hear your mother's words or fee lhler presence?Since she diee it has happened to me, andI am very rational.

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Brant, I do not want to intrude on your experience. But mayI ask, do you hear your mother's words or fee lhler presence?Since she diee it has happened to me, andI am very rational.

No.

--Brant

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You mom had a good run.

Very little more can be asked of mortals.

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You mom had a good run.

Very little more can be asked of mortals.

She was confused and so fell down and hit her head in an unexpected place, but she was fighting for her freedom against the confining guard rail that let me sleep at night. She won but the cost was too high. When she was more rational she accepted the rail for I told her without it I couldn't sleep. She understood that then but not at the end. It took me two months to understand all this properly. The arrangement worked for two years until it didn't work anymore. There was no rail on the end of the bed as you'll find on a hospital bed.That's how she got up. It went up in the first place after two trips to the hospital to make sure there were no broken bones on bleeding on the brain and to tie off or stop a small arterial bleeder in the forehead. I still have a lot of regret, but not guilt. It's kind of ironical that something else was to do her in than her dementia but it was the dementia that finally did it. A cold could have done the job for she had little strength in reserve.

In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck.

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In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck.

Indeed. I am a pater familia. No one between me and the Brink. I am next over the edge or my wife.,

So it goes. Since it is inevitable I don't worry about it.

Ba'al Chatzaf

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In the generation ahead of me I still have my mother's sister and father's brother. Makes you pause and think. Your perspective keeps changing as you get older. Older people buffer you from the reality of your own mortality. At least the only dementia was my mother's and her mother on either side of my long-lived families and my mother got hers ten years older than her mother did. I'm genetically programmed to live into my 90s mentally sharp, which doesn't mean I will; shit happens. I mean when there is no apparent male-pattern baldness in any of my relatives and ancestors to speak of and I could use a toupee made from a bear skin . . . --well, its more vegetables and less meat. Uck.

Indeed. I am a pater familia. No one between me and the Brink. I am next over the edge or my wife.,

So it goes. Since it is inevitable I don't worry about it.

Ba'al Chatzaf

it's interesting isn't it. I have a whackload of thriving aunts, but I cannot bear the thought of their dying, I would no longer be me in my proper place in the family/world. At my mother's funeral, my darling aunt Charlotte said to me, sobbing, ,"You poor child!"She remembered me being a child, and her brother and sister-in-law whom she had so loved. It was the only time I cried,myself.

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